Sach- Such A Great Feeling

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What is truth? Is it just being right or just an antonym of lie? The answer to this question is easy. Truth is the act of doing right that works for the betterment of an individual or society. However, it is often seen that people lose their stand on being truthful. There are many conditions in which a person feels lying is the last option. Soon that habit of lying grows. There can be two reasons why a person lies. Firstly because he don’t see any harm in lying and just because he has got away when he lied in the past and secondly is the unawareness of the relief that a person feels after telling the truth.

The first reason depends on the situation while the second reason depends on an individual’s character. If a person is lying then his character should be such that he should feel guilt and shame for his act. The moment a person decides to live without guilt that is when he would tread on the path of truth.

There was one incident, which happened with me a few months back. My girl friend told me to stop being in touch with my ex. I understood her situation and agreed to the point. Few weeks passed and I bumped into my ex at local mall. We shared few pleasantries and headed our ways.

I thought of hiding that meeting from my girl friend. I knew the reaction could worsen our relationship and could possibly break it (based on the experience). I loved her and did not want to hurt her. That day we had dinner together. The night was going smoothly, I looked into her eyes, and that innocence drove me to the guilt lane. That guilt of hiding something from her poked me inside. I dropped her at her place and drove back to my place. That night I pondered over the thought of our relationship. Should I lie to make this relationship work? Moreover, if is it so, then are we really in a good relationship?

Via- http://snabur-cogito.blogspot.in/2013/04/never-compromise-truth.html

I called my girlfriend and asked if she could meet me. She was a little hesitant and worried but gave in to my request. I picked her up and we drove to a nearby place. She looked at me and asked what happened. I narrated the whole scenario to her. She listened carefully and then spoke in her serious tone “It’s ok. You did for us.” She made me understand that whatever I did was not intentional and if I had not spoken to my ex, she would felt guilty. That is when I realized our relationship has matured. Now she is not my girlfriend, now she is my fiancée.

This incident made me realize how beautiful is that feeling of telling the truth and letting off that burden. Truth never breaks, it only makes and if something gets broken because of truth then it was never meant to be.

Speak truth because the more you practice it the more it would honor you.

Visit Melbourne To Have Fun

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Melbourne, a city that once was capital of Australia is one of the most awesome cities in the world. It offers a lot to individuals who are visiting it for the first time or more. The residents of the city are welcoming and the affection that you get from them is the best souvenir that you can take home with you.

This beautiful and magical city of Melbourne has a lot to offer. It has everything that makes it the most livable city in the world. I have come across individuals who visit this magical city time and again. There are many ways through which you can enjoy your time in the city.

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If you are a wildlife enthusiast then you can visit the zoos and the reserves. Just rent a boat and enjoy the calm and beautiful Murray River. The experience would leave you with a warm heart. You can also explore on the various wildlife species that are native to the Australia only. Whether it is marveling the athletic hops of a Kangaroo or heart melting sight of Koala bear, you can experience all that here. If you want to get up close to the wildlife then visiting Australian Shark and Ray Centre and feeding those beautiful Shark and sting Ray should be the top activity on your activity book when you arrive here.

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If you among those who like exploring cities on foot then also this city would not disappoint you. The cafes and restaurants would also offer you with some of the finest local cuisines when you get tired of walking. The amicable restaurant staff of these places would not only serve you some of the most exquisite and delicious dishes but will also help you with their local knowledge on what you can visit.

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If you are sport buff then also these city has a lot for you. A visit the MCG (Melbourne Cricket Ground), which is like walk to moon to for many, is something that you wouldn't want to miss. Being an Indian and cricket buff, I would want to go to that ground once in a life time. As the cricket world cup is approaching you can book your ticket to this beautiful city and see her celebrate one of the biggest festivals of cricket i.e. world cup.

Go visit this beautiful city and make memories of your lifetime.

Which of these places would you want to visit Melbourne and why? 

You can comment your responses below. 

Happy Kids = Memorable Vacations

Vacations and trips are some of the most memorable times of an individual’s life. These travel experiences make an individual’s life complete. The fun just doubles when we have kids sharing those vacation moments with us.

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When kids become part of a trip, they bring their energy to it. Their amusement and reactions to the new and unknown traditions and customs of that foreign land are priceless and the fun that they have is something that starts to reflect in every member.

When I was a kid, we used to go on trips with our uncles and cousins and the “bachha party” used to have a ball throughout the trip. The reminiscence of those trips is not just cherished by us but also by our parents. They recall the shear enthusiasm and confidence that we showed while indulging those goofy traits.

I recall one incident when we went for a trip to Leh and Ladakh. We were having cricket bats and ball with us. When we reached there we were all were too exhausted to even go out for the morning sightseeing but the kids were determined to practice their cover drive on such heights. We finally gave up to their will but told them that they can play and we will not be part of the sport, to which they happily agreed. We were sitting on the rocks watching them play and that is when few kids dressed in the attire of bodh bhikshu also gathered and watched them play. My cousin’s son went up to them offered them to play as well. They were a little hesitant at first but agreed to our kids’ idea. The sight of those bodh kids playing cricket with our kids was something that still fills up my heart with some warm emotions and brings smile to my face. What we captured with our eyes that moment has stayed with us as sweet memory, which could have only been possible because of our kids.

Many incidents like this had given us memories that we even cherish today. The first and foremost step to such a perfect vacation is a good plan. Whenever we plan a vacation, we take special care that our kids have great time. The first and foremost thing that we do is book a good hotel or resort. Once you have a good place to stay and throw your luggage in, it is half the job done. Picking up the right sightseeing spots that would interest the kids and even the adults is my second priority because on vacation everyone needs to have fun. Once I cover these two things then I just sit, relax and enjoy my vacation with my family and make awesome memories that I cherish long after the trips.

Facing The Fear

Fear is a four letter word that can make a hell let of a difference in someone’s life. When it escalates and its magnitude increases, it turns into phobia. With a good numbers in population accepting that they have fear of something, we also have good percentage of individuals who live in denial of fearing anything. Now again not fearing anything does not mean taking foolish decisions. To overcome your fear you first have to accept it and try to face it.

Some people have stage fear but that does not mean they should go to stage unprepared to face the fear. To face fear you have to be prepared for it. If you have stage fear, then first prepare yourself and then make appearance on stage. It might not turn out to be a best experience but it will give you confidence to face your fear in future.

Even when I look back I recollect that I was too afraid of failures because I could not accept them. It hindered me from not only taking big decisions but also the calculated risks. I had that desire of starting my own company but convinced myself for the company job. The main reason for it was the risk involved and not getting approval of the mass. I always thought of indulging in tried and tested ways. I did not like venturing into the unknown field because of surprise element or shock element as I interpreted.

I got job in an MNC but the joining date never arrived because the company said we cannot accommodate more employees because of the recession. I was again unemployed and now the situation became dire because hiring was on halt in most of the companies. I searched for job for few months before landing in a small local startup. It helped me understand various intricacies of the business and how to run a company. The more knowledge I got the clearer the thought of starting my own company became.

After a couple of years I left that job and started working on freelancing basis. My decision was not approved by my family, friends and relatives. Freelancing was not easy at the beginning but that is when the stuff I learned in the company helped me. I implemented all the knowledge that I had gained while working for my previous company. After half a year my efforts were started paying. I was getting regular work from the same clients and even from the new clients.

This was the time when the desire to start my company was at its peak but the fear of failing stopped me. But the desire made me gain more knowledge about starting a company. The knowledge gave me confidence and helped me in overcoming my fear and I finally took the initiative and hired two individuals and rented an office. Initial months were unproductive and I had to pay them from my pocket. The decision was turning out to be disaster and the fear of failing was again breathing down my neck but it was time to rise above fear. I worked hard and talked to the employees and contemplated my approach all over and the result finally paid off. The wheels of the company were finally churning and within a year the company of 3 grew to 20. Profit rose exponentially and the company which started as small IT dream is ready to flap it wings and make its flight count.

If there is something that I learned from it was overcoming fear is the first step to goal.

Yes Or No To Premarital Sex Is Choosing Your Happiness

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Many individuals are in relationship and scratch their head on the question that whether they should indulge in any kind of fornication related activity with their partners. The answer is very uncomfortable for the Indian society. Sex is something that is been considered taboo and indecent. If you are in a relationship and have pretty much same thought about sex then it is better you take your time and indulge in it when you are comfortable with the thought of doing it.

Premarital sex is as natural as post marriage sex. When two individuals are in a relationship and feel the urge to express his or her emotions through touch then it is perfectly normal. Premarital sex is unnatural if your partner is not ready or you are not ready.

One of the most common thought that rise in minds of individuals who are in relationship is “what will happen if after doing it they break up?” The answer to this question is simple and tricky at the same time.

Firstly, if your relationship hit rocks and both of you do not find happiness with each other than breaking up is a good option and not letting the sex affect your decision. Living a miserable life just because you lost your virginity to someone, with whom you were in love at that time, is not at all an intelligent decision. Having sex does not make you bad in anyways. You have to understand the fact that if you are going to spend your life with someone then what should matter to you and your partner is you share a strong bond of love and happiness.

Now coming to a different aspect is the trust. It is a cornerstone of a relationship. If you love your partner and know that relationship is not because of sex but because of love then you can easily make a clear decision of doing it. If you have any doubt about indulging in such kind of act then it is better you wait. Just do not let sex affect you in any adverse way because, if you are not ready for it then you would blame yourself and make your life worse for yourself.

At the end, what matters most is your happiness. Saying yes or no to premarital sex is your personal choice. As far as I am concerned, I do not find anything wrong in premarital sex and I am ready for it. 

Road Safety- Think And Dirve

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Road safety is one of those topics about which a lot is being said and little is done. People blame government for the accidents and road mishaps, but they have to understand that it is people like them who drive and walk on the road.

Riding without helmet, driving without fastening seat belts are some of the most common traffic rule violations. When those individuals are fined for their ignorance they argue with the statements like “You didn’t catch that guy, see he is also not following the rules”. Such a behavior to point finger at others can never be helpful in improving the traffic. It is us who has to take the initiate to bring the change.

By following simple and easy traffic rules you can save your and someone else’s life too. There are numerous cases of drunk driving in which the sober victim has to pay the ultimate price. Useless honking while signal is red is not going to help in anyways in turning the red signal to green.

Many a times people say that they follow rules but it is others who don’t let them follow rules. It is one of the most untrue and vague statements. If someone is honking at you just because you stopped at red light does not mean you have to jump the red light, if someone is not using horn before overtaking then you don’t have to do the same and same is for all other situations.

Few days back I had an encounter while I was riding to the local market place. A guy from behind kept honking, not to mention with his extra loud pressure horns. I gave him side to overtake, which he did. He drove in a fancy manner through the relatively small streets. The street connected to the main road and as I reached that intersection I saw the guy standing with a police officer. Even I was stopped by the police but they left me after checking my papers but because he was not wearing helmet and had a fancy number plate which led him to a heavy fine. This time the violator just paid the price with the fine but same will not be case for many. For some fine would be their lives and is worst when such violators take someone else’s life.

With the big brands coming to raise awareness among people for the cause, the condition seems to be improving and there is a hope for a better traffic. Nissan Safety Driving Forum (NSFD) is one such attempt to raise awareness among individuals for safe driving in India. It has already reached 2 lakh individuals and growing strongly. The NSFD has covered various cities Mumbai, New Delhi, Chennai are few of them. We should also come out and make contributions to this event and make Indian roads a lot safer and driving on Indian roads safer.

Speak up and act for a cause

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With the launch of the new campaign to make India clean, almost every second individual make great claims about his great effort for the cause. Some individuals do really take a step and are making great efforts to make this campaign a success. But for the most of individuals it is just a mere mundane topic for the conversation. These individuals will pose with a broom or do a status update and that is it for them. That is their great effort. Rather than acting for the cause they just make big statements. But at least they are making a statement for a cleaner India and if their throat becomes sore, I will be happy to provide them with the Strepsils.

To make India clean we have to come out and speak, not just with the words but with the actions. To make our societies’ Billu, Chinu, Sonu, Montu indulge in the act of cleaning India, we first have to take the initiative. We have to take one Strepsils and make a pledge in clear voice, to make India clean. The moment you speak up and start indulging in the act of keeping India clean, your Montu would also speak up #AbMontuBolgega.

No matter wherever you go just keep in mind not to litter and not accepting when anyone litters. If a person litters then politely ask him to pick it up and trash it in the bin.

A few days back I was having a cup of tea of at a stall and there was a man having a cup of tea and smoking cigarette. After taking last drag from the cigarette he threw it on the ground and after finishing his tea he did same with the disposable cup. Before I could say anything, the owner of the tea stall asked that man to pick up the cup and the cigarette bud, to which he said “pick up if you have so much problem with it” in an infuriating manner. I interjected and said “don’t pick it up, he has done it he should throw it in bin” to which the owner replied “what harm will it do, if I do that? After all I am doing it to keep my place clean”. The man was listening to the whole conversation and I don’t know what struck him but he bent down, picked up the cigarette bud and the cup and threw it in the bin. This is when I understood speaking up does have its significance. This act inspires everyone to speak up for the cause. If someone is not keeping India clean, we should request them to clean. If the person is still littering then it is our duty to take a step and dispose trash into the bin.

There are various campaigns launched to support for the cause of a cleaner India and one such is Ab Montu Bolega campaign by Strepsils. By becoming part of this campaign you can make authorities aware of the present condition of the places that need to be cleaned. You can also make the people aware by becoming part of this campaign. It is a campaign that has made individuals realize the power of their word and we should support campaigns like this. I support this campaign and this time around “Ab Montu ke sath me bhi bolunga”.

Reconnecting with the lost touch

It was like a daily weekend morning. We were having tea and discussing over the grocery items that has to be bought.  She went to take bath and I turned to the newspaper and cup of tea, which was about to finish. I Flipped through few pages, read my favorite column before getting stuck at the sports page. As I was about to move from the football to tennis, I heard her calling my name from the bedroom. I went there and she asked me if I could help her in getting her hair untangled from the dress that she was wearing. I nodded and started to look for the noose which got her hair entangled in the zipper. After a little struggle finally managed to locate the noose and untangled it from the zipper. As I was about to leave, she asked me which pair of earrings will go well with the dress that she was wearing. I answered with a little agitation “green one”. She understood that I was least interested in giving her suggestions on what would go well with her dress. She said okay and I left immediately to the Sharapova’s latest feat. She was a little disappointed after the incident. The day went past as usual but she looked upset. I decided to take her out for dinner that night to make up for my mistake and made reservations in a nearby restaurant and made her aware of the plan. She said okay in a faint voice. I knew she was still upset. We got out of our house and locked the door and drove to the restaurant. I ordered her favorite dish but nothing brought smile to her face. After paying the bill we drove to her favorite spot. She was surprised and I took her hand pointed to the places and started talking of the stuff that we used to do when we used to come there. She held my arm and rested her head on my chest and slowly kissed me on the cheek. The day wasn’t special but the night wasn’t ordinary when we reconnected and found the lost touch in the comfort each other’s arms #BringBackTheTouch. The night passed reliving the old memories and loving every single bit of it.   

Home of Healthy kid

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Toys are sprawled in the drawing room, bed sheets are making the roof and cushions of sofas are acting as a cover, this means only one thing my nephew is in my home. Every time I saw dysfunctional house I can sense that my nephew visited my house. I sometimes wonder from where he got such an enormous amount of energy to disturb everything of my house. Though he is too young to understand the duty of commando but he knows the working procedure of them. Sometimes, I become the terrorist whom he caught red handed and presented to senior officials (his mom), sometimes I become a rock which hides him for terrorist. Our banal house becomes a live wire, when he arrives and we love it.

One day, I came from my office and I saw everything at its place and there were no noises of gunshots either. I was a bit surprised as I know that my sister is at home and so as my nephew. I went inside and found that he was having cough and cold. He was lying on the bed coughing and watching me with his cute eyes. His temporary illness puts me in deep dejection and I enquired my sister about his health. As expected she had already consulted the doctor and he prescribed the medicines but he also said that he will require at least 3 days for full recovery. I sat around him and asked which toy he wants but he shows no interest at all. After sometime my sister gave him some food and a dose of medicines which made him asleep. My mom served dinner and we all set down to dining table. Though all of us are having at least one favorite dish but none was interested in eating it and the reason was obvious. This continues for 3 days and on fourth day when I entered my house expecting to see some toys on drawing room, I was dejected by appearance.

Everything was at its place and I hated that scene. I entered into my nephew’s room and didn’t find him there. I called my mom and before I could turn, I felt something on back. Before I could think anything I heard a sweet voice saying “move to the next room” and he pressed gun barrel on my back. I followed the instruction and found my sister and mom sitting watching T.V.  Little commander of my house is back on duty and he caught a dejected terrorist trapped in the formal cloth.

That moment, I was so happy to see him as he was completely fine and ready with his plans to change the interiors of my house. His recovery was faster because my sister always gave her healthy food and chawanprash everyday.  That moment I realized that kids make the house ill if they are ill; there is nothing more desolating than a house of an ill kid. I request everyone to keep their kids healthy by choosing the healthy lifestyle and product. After all, they are the real source of energy of house. 

Missing the link

“I am trying so hard and I am not getting what I want.” Every one of us must have heard it from someone mouth and in fact most of us have even faced this situation. From blaming the luck to abusing the obstacles, we do all kinds of things which create negative energy around us. Sometimes the impact of it is so high that our loved ones start maintaining distance from us and we thought it’s because of our situation. Do you really think whatever we heard or think in that situation was right? If so, then re-think.

Life is not a journey of ups and ups and in fact it’s a journey of ups and down and none of us wants to go down.  We always want better and this desire leads us to a path where we find it hard to get the normal things. Whenever something went wrong we start trying harder and this mess the whole thing up. Rather than having patience, we jump to try our full potential and we didn’t even notice that we are just putting lot of manual efforts nothing else. Sitting idly just to make sure that we spent time on thinking or doing some extra work by sacrificing private moments are only results to agony.

We can be wiser by just maintaining patience and start thinking what went wrong. This will help us in realizing the missing link of life. As everyone says that it’s easy to say and hard to implement and I too accede the thought but I don’t think there is any harm in practicing patience. If you think you have better plan then please think how many plans you are having for comparison. Once you are sure about what you will do then start doing as it will help you in putting all your effort in executing the plan. So, find out the missing link first and then create your working plan. You can consult your friend, family, soul mate for helping you out with alternate plans. After all more the options you have, better you will choose. 

Talk to your grandest grand children through yourbot

Imagine you are having a conversation with your grandest grand children and you are revealing all your experience to him, isn't it exciting? The only problem is that we are unsure that how long we will live and leaving diary or audio tape won’t be good enough to enshrine the wisdom words for the long time. How can we do it now? Thanks to the Yourbot’s next generation android device having speech-to-text conversation ability we are now able to interact with our grandest kids.   

This device will ask you plenty of questions which will include each aspect of your life span and then it will create a 3D digital personality of you sharing you revealing your experiences.  Series of questions are created by eminent researchers of Princeton University and hence it will compile your entire life experience in your answers.

Through this device we can create a cross-generational connection which is still a dream beyond imagination. The start-up is seeking for the funds to create this next generation device and you can also contribute it to Yourbot’s kickstarter campaign to make it happen. Show your support to this awesome futuristic vision and contribute to it like I did. 

Types of Employees

Life takes a big step and before I realize, I am in the corporate world. Expectation of getting placed in MNCs were ruined by the college time pass department (training and placement department) but got a good company to start my career and now I am experiencing the life of IT employee. I am not doing anything special like coding or deployment or administrating servers and in fact I am not even doing any technical work.

In this brief time, I have experienced many things which will surely help me in future. First thing that I learned is that employees can be classified into three types i.e. doers, push-to-do, and chewing-gums. You will never find these kinds of classification in any books and hence I am describing them briefly. The doers are self-motivating workaholic types of person who always want work and if you closely observe then you feel that they are contributing more than 40 percent to total productivity. 

Second kinds of peoples are those who require a push to do something. This push may be pressure or jealousy or money or any other thing. They will not show their talent as they think it can lead to exploitation. Third kinds of people are special employees who got placed due to their contacts and hence avoid working. They are like chewing gums for the company and company desperately wants to get rid of them. I worked with all of them and I finally able to learn few things –

First I learn how to finish work well in time with a vision that it will give more time for personal skill development. Obviously, I learnt it from first type.  Then I learn the art of procrastination and crisis management from second type. Finally, I learnt the most important lesson i.e. always maintain contact as it will make your life easy. No matter how small or how big the company is you will find these employees. If you are having these creatures around you and if you are getting irritated by their work then always remember that you can learn few things from them as well. Sometimes the things are not-to-do kind of.  I hope I would learn from these environments so that I can clearly define what to do and what not to do.  

Fading charm

Iphone6 is arrived, Google is planning to launch its next set of smart phones, HRD ministry is planning to start more IIT’s and IIM’s, ISRO successfully test Mars Orbit mission, Bollywood starts are preparing for more 100 cr movies; everything is happening at a rapid pace and only thing which I found stuck is my own blog.  Its like decades have passed since I wrote anything on my blog.  Am I too busy? Honestly no. Have I run out of the notions? I wish I could.  Then why this is happening?

The only answer is fading charm. When I started writing, I view everything with a unique vision and I always engaged myself in searching such things but as the time progresses, the things around me are fading charm. If you too observe the things, then you will also feel the same. As we are upgrading ourselves, the things around us are losing charm. If you don’t believe its true then just observe the activities on social media. Whenever, you saw some post related with nostalgic memories you will sense increased traffic while new and improved things aren’t face that much of attention. If you are having your first cell phone with you then just take out and keep it in your hands for 2 minutes and then you will realize how precious that cell phone is for you.  I am not saying new things are bad or previous things are better but I feel that nowadays we are less connected with the things around us compared to previous times.

Moreover, the next generation is also showing syndromes of the same and they care less about their own things. Sometimes, I wish I could live a life backwards to relive those moments again. I hope I get emotionally connected with the new things soon. 

NIGHT SHIVERS

Night shivers in the winter winds

No one wants her in their house

She is wandering alone

Looking for a shelter

Street dogs beset her

And she is sobbing near the street lamp

I opened my window

Asked her to come in

She refuses dejectedly

I tried to convince her

But she was persistent

As I asked for reason

She said you will made me prostitute

As you made other helpless females

I had no answer to this question

As I was the part of this world

She left me and said

If you want give shelter

Give it to a girl who is in need

I had stars, sky, and sometime moon

So, you my friend help them rather

Then helping me

And she lost in haze

I think over it and

Conclude that she was right.

DREAM

I saw a blur face in my dreams

With gloaming background and eyes dim

She came to me and surrender

I felt her breath on my shoulder

I was not in a state to say

And she went far away

I could not recognize her torment face

As she lost in the haze

From then, each night

Before closing the eye

I look down to sky

And pray to god

Please gave me that dream once more

And this time i will not open my eyes for sure….

Confession of a perplexed mind

We are not born to be perfect but we always want to become perfect.  With so many options to choose and with so many lucrative offers available most of us tend to swing between options and eventually ended up doing unworthy activity. I am also facing the same issue. I am not finding enough courage to take one decision and stick on to it. Whenever I came close to making a decision thoughts of failures start entering my brain and left me in perplexed state. Am I in need of psychologist or it happens with everyone? This question kept haunting me though I tried to avoid it but still it is in the back of my mind.

As all of you do not know about my background so I am giving a brief about me in here. I am management student looking to get a good opportunity to begin my professional career. Prior to that, I hold an engineering degree but I do not think it will help me in finding the suitable job. I developed an interest in finance and management in last few years but my interest is constantly challenged by my childhood dream of becoming a Bureaucrat. While I was doing engineering, I developed habit of penning down my emotions and learn several forms of Urdu poetry. I started 4-5 novels but eventually none is completed. I was working as a part-time writer but soon I fed up of it.  In the process of testing my hands on everything, I once tried my hands on becoming an entrepreneur and my IT service provider partnership firm was doing well until frictions amongst the partner put me out of the business. Now I am in a state where I am jack of all trade and master of none.

Whenever I make a move of concentrating on public service commission exams, I got scared as I think if I do not get a job now it will be difficult for me to get it in future. I am MBA fresher and after a year or so, I will be a one-year-old fresher, which makes job finding even more difficult. If I concentrate on finding the job, I want a job in MNC and I do not have any calls from any MNCs + I will not be able to study for PSC exams. I have 2 opportunities to start my career and both companies are start-ups. One company is of financial services while other is of IT services. I have experience in handling IT services (as I was running one), while I am having a bit of interest in financial services.  I hate to admit the fact that I am just becoming a jack of all trade and I do not want to be the one. 

Sometimes, when I see my predicament it literally made me cry. I am not all settled and there is no possibility of settling in near future.  I don’t know what to do and if you can help me out in suggesting anything or help me out in gathering courage to stick to one decision then please write to me at   - vishwasnyaik@gmail.com , your advice may become useful for me.  Thanks for giving the time hope I came out with this misery and soon write a post with solution.  Till then take care!

JOY OF WRITING

Writing your heart out is nothing but a satisfaction which every writer achieved. After entering into the professional writing world a writer may stop writing what he wants and instead of this he start writing what readers want. Eventually he lost interest in writing and it becomes a sheer work for him.  Those who keeps on stressing about ‘love what you do’ fails to solve this issue as they keep on stressing that it just a phase and the issue will sort out soon.   I was going through this phase for a long time and this irks me a lot.   I stop writing professional contents and start doing silly mistakes. Then I decide to take a break from writing and the break is still not over.  Though I am writing the contents but it is not matching my previous quality.

Sometimes, I feel ashamed when I saw my writing work as I consider it way lower than my standard.  I used to have my own way of expressing the thoughts and now I don’t have any.  I somehow manage to write but what about pleasure of writing? What about getting the satisfaction of penning down the emotions? I was actually not thinking about this stuff until this morning. Today when I was doing my daily internet ritual (scrolling my Facebook wall for no reason) and I found a post from one of my good friend (http://apparitionofmine.blogspot.in/2014/06/have-you-retired-from-blogging.html). She too writes well and she also stopped writing.  Her post really made me think that do I really retired from writing?

Well, statistics suggests I do but it’s not true.  I just need to start writing the things I want to write irrespective of what readers wants to read. Though readers are important to me but I know readers will enjoy reading the things which directly came from the heart. They will feel connected and probably understand my predicament.  I don’t know how long I will be able to do it but I would surely try it out.  I will also advice the same to my friends and to every writer who showed initial writing spark but fails to convert it into an eternal fire.  Hope no writer gets retired from writing before retiring from the life.

Thanks to Noopur and her friend for churning my brain and provoking me to write the post. God bless you! 

Be patient without procrastination

 It’s been month since I post anything on my blog. It’s not because I was super busy past days or some other obvious responses. I was waiting for the time to change so that I can decide the future course of action. My life was a mess and I don’t know how to fix it. Many of my friends suggested me that you need some break and everything will automatically fix.  Like an obedient patient I just did what my closed ones prescribed me.

Initially it was nice as I was getting plenty of free time but later it turned out to be disaster. I started questioning my abilities, I unconsciously developed a habit of saying no to everything which is not a cake walk and on top of that I started procrastination.  At 24 you are supposed to realize goals and make further plans to your future but I was not doing anything. Months have passed but agony continues.

 Few days back I wasn’t even able to figure out my potential and my goals. I was lost in the process of giving time and wasn’t able to find any way. Finally, I switched myself to old mode to figure out what was happening. I had a conversation with me late night which leads me to a temporary solution and soon after it; I start gaining my abilities to create plans.  Moreover, now I am able to figure out what exactly went wrong with ‘be patient theory’.  

 The key behind this theory is that you need to do the things which you love and you cannot stop doing it. If you loves to read or write continue doing it even if you are practicing patient theory. Once you stopped doing it, you will start feeling an empty circle around you and soon this circle will create a void in your brain. It will restrain you in doing anything and you will soon become a procrastinator.  You need continue doing the things you loved and start having a conversation with yourself. Nobody knows you better than you and hence always have a word with yourself.  

So, if you are also planning to test ‘be patient theory’ then keep these things in mind. Else you will end up in same state as mine. 

Insane resume builder

All of you must know someone who puts ‘getting the job’ on the first in his priority list. Well I too know someone who is insanely working to get a job. He is one of my classmates in MBA and he can do anything to get a job. In order to fulfill his dream of working in MNC companies he literally does some weird stuff.

I still recall the first lecture of personality development session where our mentor told us the importance of resume. Everyone in the classroom was pretending to listen but sumit (name not so cleverly changed by me) was the only person who was preparing notes.  He wrote few lines in capitals like “HAVE A CLEARLY DEFINED OBJECTIVES”, “KNOW YOUR WEAKNESS AND STRENGTHS.” For a moment I thought these lines are first time ever spoken by someone then sanity returns to me. Like a good classmate I asked him to stop the shit and he rejected by saying “tuje kya pata, agar pata hota to tu placed hota (you don’t know anything and if you would know this thing you would have been placed)”.

From that day onwards he started doing the activities to enrich his C.V again.  He started reading English literary classics (though he did not understand the language, nor do I), he started learning guitar (as madam used the “playing guitar” as an example of what should we write in the hobby section). One day madam has asked us to bring our resumes so that she can correct the mistakes.  She pointed various mistakes in one of my classmate’s CV though he was not even bothered about it. In his resume he wrote “captain of college cricket team and winner of university badminton tournaments”. Madam used his example to describe what should we write in extracurricular activities. Unfortunately, sumeet hated sports and hence he always kept safe distance from it.

Next morning I surprisingly found him on the cricket field consulting to one of my team members about cricket. I asked him why you are doing it. He again responded in usual manner “Bhai certificate resume me likhne ke kaam aayega (brother, certificate will enrich the resume)”. At that moment I realized that boss iski #conditionserioushai.

He is actively attending seminars and trying to read more and more books with regular cricket and guitar practices. Trust me his efforts are totally wasted as he is not doing anything efficiently. He cannot take high catches nor he is having good stroke timings and it gives intolerable pain when he strums his half un-tuned guitar (his description of un-tune guitar, as guitar strings are tight enough to produce the noise). 

I want to give him Cadbury five star but I know he would say “bhai, isase mere resume par kya affect padgega”. Let’s see when he ends his insane resume building strategy and start doing the things which he loves to do. I hope all his efforts will pay off and he would get a good job in MNC.

Solitude of nothing

Sometimes in life our all options to stay positive vanished and the dark clouds are on your head. I don’t know how I manage to get these dark situations so often and I need to figure out soon. There is nothing left in the world if you are not finding happiness in doing anything. Here case applies to me.

From the past weeks I am trying to move life but it is not moving an inch. My desperate efforts results in catastrophic results and I am losing my sanity. My heart runs over my brain and they both ended up tangled leaving me in the misery. External forces are also having their share and they are making sure that they won’t leave any stone unturned. In search of positive complacent life I start visiting websites like speaking tree and start reading the spiritual way. I raid it somewhere that reading spiritual texts enlightens the darkness of soul. As soon as I start reading the texts which I used to read it long back I am again trapped in the illusion world.

They call it Maya; from Maya to Moksha they have way full of misery and grievances. I smiled at myself that to avoid pain and misery I am reading about the path which is full of misery. I don’t know how to deal with such situations as nothing yield me the pleasure. Not even mesmerizing concert of Hariharan which I attended alone. I am lagging behind everything and that too in the most critical time of my life.  

Whenever I got puzzled I find a solution lies inside me but this time I am clueless.  I don’t know from where I should start or what should I drop. I checked my routine I checked my actions I checked my words but still not figuring out the issues. May be I need to give some time to this nothing situation and so that I can start from the scratch. If you are having any suggestions to me then please write it to me as your suggestion can prove to be vital for me. 

Why not I?

I saw you and I start loving you a lot  

I express the feeling I express the thoughts

I told you my dreams I describe emotions

I share the notions which I shared with none

You had your words, you rejected my proposal

Around your no, my whole world swirls

I broke up into the pieces

I lost what I needed

You told me that without family consensus

 You won’t go into relation

I accept the bitter truth and I respected reason

You maintain the distance and made me alone

I was punished for the crime unknown

Then you told me that you moved in a relationship

Who look far better than I

Your words put me in despair

As now I only think

Why not I?

Why not I?