Moving on After a Relationship

It has been exactly 3 years 6 months after my broke up, and I can still feel her presence.  Sometimes I think what went wrong between us. We had fights before break ups as well but all of them were ended on sweet notes. With her, my hobbies are also gone. I am no longer a person who is crazy for reading and writing. In fact, I am now a confused pre-occupied soul. I am not afraid to try the other person but still I am not letting anyone to enter in my life. Whenever I sense the similar warmness from the other girls, I tend to move away from them. Is it me who is not letting other entering in my life or actually the other girls are not in my liking zone. 

Recently I came to know that she is engaged and now busy in posting her updated happy relationship photos on Facebook. Thank god, she is not in my list. After my broke up I was complacent with the fact that now she can search her Mr. right but after checking  the guy’s profile I am a bit shocked as  the girl still doesn’t improve her taste. While I was stalking, her recent updates I was recalling every late night planning that we used to do and trust me nothing is going as per our plans. Is that what she was looking for? I don’t know about the rest of the details but still I hope whatever she wants in her life that guy should give her (not at all a sentimental broken heart statement just a genuine wish for the one who once used to be my someone special).

Close friends are asking me to move on as she did but frankly speaking, I do not understand what they mean by moving on. Is going in relationship with some other person is definition of move on.  If it is so then they are right but if it is something else then they are not. I already moved on and now I need companion rather than girl friend and until the time I do not find her, I will not be doing hit and trial.  Moving on for me is more to do with controlling feelings, which you have for the other one, rather than moving in relationship with other. If you were a part of broken relationship then don’t be scared to move in relationship with other (that doesn’t imply that you can go with anyone, just give sometime to person and then decide).

I have heard people proclaiming that they will remain single entire life as they cannot love other person and I did not find any logic behind it. With due respect to your feelings I just want to say just give someone special place and trust me if you like her as a friend and he/she care and respect you then don’t bother,  they will make you love them. It is just about being open for everyone without compromising your comfort. So, just move on after a relationship by keeping the reasons of failure and once you find the person making effort to be with you, give him/her a chance, they will never leave you. 

Thats all I have

After long toiling day at work

No respite what so ever

Went to light-less street

Like a leaf, wind

Tries to blow me

Empty hands of mine

Missing the warmness

Came back to a dark room

With tears in eyes

Thats all I have

Thats all I used to....

In Between Dreams and Necessity

In life what we want is nothing but the desires molded into needs. If I want to have an expensive phone or car then I am just simply making it a necessity.  Why we do such thing?  I mean why we can’t simply admit the fact that it’s our desire.  I have no answer for this question.

I am simply awestruck by the fact that I am constantly doing it since I came to know about desires. Is desires are really bad? Every time I read some spiritual post I got this life mantra “don’t desire much be happy with what you have” and just like the other readers I also think that reason for my desolation is my desire.  With my best efforts I am trying to suppress my desires for the happiness and trust me I am not really very happy with what I have. I am not blaming anyone (including myself) for what I have but yes I am not 100 percent satisfied with what I have. Be it a job or vehicle or watch or phone or any other materialistic thing, I just simply not satisfied with it.

As I write it earlier as well that I am suppressing my desires to be happy but the truth is I am not really happy it just helps me to accept the things I have. But really do I buy stuffs to accept (as I am buying means I have accepted it) or do I buy it for happiness. I am not at all saying that this approach of being happy with what you have is not good or it should not be practiced but yes I have started to believe that desires also plays crucial role in changing life. If Ashoka was complacent then he would not  have such a large kingdom or if Sachin was complacent after breaking Hanes and Gavaskar’s record for most number of centuries in ODI and test format then he would not be the first person score 100 centuries in international format. With these examples I am simply putting forward the thought that desire is necessary in life and all you need to do is to make a perfect combination of both. You cannot desire for everything (obviously everyone wants a king’s thrown) but you can simply have a separate list of desire. Don’t mingle it with necessity as it will make you sad (if you don’t fulfill it). I am not having enough experience to propound this theory but till now this is what I am adopting. I am giving 100 percent for my desires and yes it is significant part of my life.  If you have any opinion/advise for me then please comment on the post. I will be happy to read your response.

Self-reliant family guy

A gift from god to all people is family. There are very few things which you cannot even describe and out of those things one is family. Moment you born you are attached with the people whom you know only by touch and then they become part of your life. If you are not one those guy who loves to be with the family then just start spend a week with your family members and respect their choices. I bet you cannot leave them after that week.

In the process of being a matured Man from a kid I learnt a lot or I would say my family teaches me a lot. I still remember the childhood when I always find myself in mess and was clueless about what will be next and then my parents solve my problems and I wondered what they did? Initially they taught you how to speak and then they taught you how to speak at right time. Being in a company with different peoples from different backgrounds I learnt one thing that the basic education that my family gave me is the most important one. Just because of that I am now able to adjust in different situations and also people who are completely strangers to me starts believing me.

Taken from
 http://joselromero.com/a-list-of-10-things-every-man-should-know.html

Whenever my mom ask me to buy a packet of bread in the childhood I felt  like the most responsible and trusted person as my mom chose me over my younger brother and once I grew up my mom ask me to do different things which requires more responsibility and maturity. While I was excited to get new responsibility and authority I completely ignored the fact that bread packet was now in my brothers hand in the similar manner he also become matured.

There is no class like family room and there is no teachers like your parents. Whenever I feel down and out or whenever I had a doubt in my own abilities my father always encourage me to work more. No matter it was my first back in engineering or my first stock market loss my father always encourage me to better. Just because of him now I am confident enough to start my life at any point of life.

Stress, nervousness, depression these kinds of words are not in my dictionary and the only reason for it is because of family. They always teach me the way to solve  the problem. As my mom says no problem is big you make it big by ignoring it and hence it is really necessary to pay attention to that problem initially and you will avoid chaotic situations. Now I am in the city of dreams without my family I know how much I miss them. I wait for the third weekend of the month (on which I usually go to my home town) and those two days recharged me till I re-visit my family. If you are feeling a bit apart from your family or you are lacking in self-belief then be with your family. I bet that you will become a completely transformed person after meeting them. Please share your experience with me as I want to hear how you feel to be with your family and how you become a self-reliant man from an immature kid. 

Toddler's Bed Time Rituals

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Babies are really innocent and are our special darlings. We love to take care of them. They make our life complete. That feeling of becoming a parent is something that can never be compared to any other thing in the whole universe. Becoming a parent does come with a lot of responsibilities. One of the main problems that parents face is not able to pick on signals or hints that baby gives. Sometime the reasons are as obvious as a cry for hunger while other times it can be just for no reason just to seek attention. The more time we spend with our babies the more we understand them. Our ways of making them smile and giving them an experience of the world gets interesting day by day. Even getting our little ones to sleep is something that develops into a ritual.

When my little one was actually too little I used to sing lullaby to him and used to make various weird voices to make him laugh. He used to actually laugh out loud (LOL) at those times and then as the day passed it become more of a habit for me to do the same stuff and watching him laugh. He would even try to speak when I would make those weird voices and it was all fun.

When he got a little older I used to act stupid and make him laugh. I would involve him in the act and he would enjoy it and actually he would get tired of laughing and then sleep soundly for the night. I even remember the time when he got a sick but used to smile when I used to act like that. I would even hold his hands and make him dance and he would totally enjoy it.

When he got a little older I would make a new story every day and narrate it to him and he would listen to it quietly and would try to communicate in his own language. I would ask him about his day and what he did all day and he would make various sounds trying to narrate everything happened throughout the day. He loved talking and I could sense it in the way he responded when I used to talk with him.

When he got a little older I started taking him out for a stroll with me and he would enjoy it. He would experience new things every day and loved going on strolls. Many a times he would want to be out only and would cry if we brought him back to home. Then we used to talk to him and say “Okay, five minutes more and then it would be sleep time”. He learned what it meant and when we reached home he would fall sleep without any trouble on most of the days.

There was one thing which was common in all these rituals it was the diaper. We would make him wear the diaper which will not make him sick and keep him dry throughout the night. If you did something interesting before your baby’s sleep then do mention it in the comment section below. 

If I Will Be Befikar Umar Bhar

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We all have worries and tensions in life. Many of us have a to-do list but we never get chance to complete that list. We have a lot of things that we want to do but our commitments and worries hold us back. How awesome it would have been if we had all the freedom to pursue our goals and dreams. Spare a thought about the time when there would be no worries and we could pursue what you would like to pursue. I have spared a thought for the same and these are the five things I would love to indulge into if I had no worries in life.

A World Tour

I guess this one would have found its place in almost every individual’s to-do list. I would love to explore new places and meet new people. Knowing their culture and their ways of life has always intrigued me. Watching all the different customs of different lands on television has always intrigued me to experience it on my own. Their philosophy and outlook towards life is also one of the things that I would really love to know and get knowledge of. Being a foodie I would also love to explore signature dishes of various lands.

Cross Country Bike Ride

I would love to purchase a bullet classic first and then go for a cross country bullet ride. I would love to ride at high altitudes where only some of the finest riders venture. Exploring small villages and being close to nature and witnessing the beauty of India on bike is an experience that I would love to have. Great stories will be told and great memories will be made. Mapping a country like India with such a great diversity, on bike will surely be one of the things I would love to indulge in.

Each One Teach One

I have seen people struggling in life because of not knowing various avenues that are open to them. Teaching individuals of various ages from rich to poor in the same classroom is one of the things I would definitely love to do. There are many parents who don’t know English and want to learn English to operate Smartphone and to use Internet. Imparting them knowledge of basic level English would be of great help for them. In the same way teaching kids of street vendors how to have a respectable job.

Animal Welfare

I love animals. I just love to play with stray dogs and have nursed birds to make them fly. Taking a step forward and helping them is something I would love to do. Adopting and fostering strays and also funding for the various surgeries that various pets go through. There are zoos which lets you adopt a animal from them and I would love adopt a vulture from one of the zoos.

Join Politics

Being a reformist and uplifting the society. Society gives us a lot and giving it back and uplifting it is something I would really enjoy doing. Joining politics and making an effort to cleaning system is a thought that I would want to execute.

There are the five points that I would have on my to-do list. Now it depends on the future if I will be able to realize any or all. If you have some interesting list do mention it in the comment section below.

#BefikarUmarBhar

My Valentine's Date With Asus Zenfone

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Yet another valentine week, much awaited moment for the lovers but what is there for the singles. No matter how much you are ignorant of this fact but deep down your heart you need a companion. The best way of avoiding this feeling is to be with someone you love and for me it is Asus Zenfone. When I bought this phone I wasn’t aware that this phone will fill emptiness of my life. Here are my reasons why this phone is my valentine - 

Brings Melody To My Ears 

No matter I am happy or sad my Asus always brings melody to my ears. Everyone loves to hear the voice of their valentine and for me it is the songs which is been played on my phone. With unmatchable voice quality I can feel the beats entering from ears to my hearts and leaving everlasting impression.

Everlasting Touch

It’s always a special feeling when you feel a gentle smooth touch on your finger tips and it is almost picturesque when you get smile after touching it. With a wide capacitive touch my phone never fails to provide me happiness when I touch it.

Brightens My World 

In the dark hours of midnight when you don’t have to cheer you up and you need someone to brighten your mood and for me it’s my Zenfone. I know it will never be irritated when disturbed when asleep. Moonlight glow makes my face light up as I scroll the menu to see the songs I love or through the pages of books I read.

Always Share My Lunch And Dinner

My phone never wants me to eat alone. With the news apps to the music apps it gives me perfect setting to every my supper. I love staring the screen for reading the latest news and reviews while having lunch. In the dark moment of night when I feel like eating something but don’t have the companion my phone never leaves me alone. With soothing tracks playing on the FM I can have my late night food with joy of checking my social media applications.

Never Leaves Me Alone 

No matter it’s a shiny day or a gloomy night my phone never leaves me alone. It always brings happiness to my face no matter I am happy or sad. It listens to me every time I turn it up. Unlike the other valentine it never gets mad at me no matter what. It captures the everlasting moments for me which brings happiness to me whenever I scroll.

Apart from these like a loyal companion it never entertains the one who tries to use it without my permission. Moreover, if you are not single then also this phone will be a must to have. Who say you can only get love from person. My Asus Zenfone is my love and I truly enjoy its company and that is why this is why my Asus zeofone is my valentine’s perfect date. #UnconditionalLove