Moving on After a Relationship

It has been exactly 3 years 6 months after my broke up, and I can still feel her presence.  Sometimes I think what went wrong between us. We had fights before break ups as well but all of them were ended on sweet notes. With her, my hobbies are also gone. I am no longer a person who is crazy for reading and writing. In fact, I am now a confused pre-occupied soul. I am not afraid to try the other person but still I am not letting anyone to enter in my life. Whenever I sense the similar warmness from the other girls, I tend to move away from them. Is it me who is not letting other entering in my life or actually the other girls are not in my liking zone. 

Recently I came to know that she is engaged and now busy in posting her updated happy relationship photos on Facebook. Thank god, she is not in my list. After my broke up I was complacent with the fact that now she can search her Mr. right but after checking  the guy’s profile I am a bit shocked as  the girl still doesn’t improve her taste. While I was stalking, her recent updates I was recalling every late night planning that we used to do and trust me nothing is going as per our plans. Is that what she was looking for? I don’t know about the rest of the details but still I hope whatever she wants in her life that guy should give her (not at all a sentimental broken heart statement just a genuine wish for the one who once used to be my someone special).

Close friends are asking me to move on as she did but frankly speaking, I do not understand what they mean by moving on. Is going in relationship with some other person is definition of move on.  If it is so then they are right but if it is something else then they are not. I already moved on and now I need companion rather than girl friend and until the time I do not find her, I will not be doing hit and trial.  Moving on for me is more to do with controlling feelings, which you have for the other one, rather than moving in relationship with other. If you were a part of broken relationship then don’t be scared to move in relationship with other (that doesn’t imply that you can go with anyone, just give sometime to person and then decide).

I have heard people proclaiming that they will remain single entire life as they cannot love other person and I did not find any logic behind it. With due respect to your feelings I just want to say just give someone special place and trust me if you like her as a friend and he/she care and respect you then don’t bother,  they will make you love them. It is just about being open for everyone without compromising your comfort. So, just move on after a relationship by keeping the reasons of failure and once you find the person making effort to be with you, give him/her a chance, they will never leave you.